Reply to the reader's letter to article.

Good afternoon, Vladimir!
I want to express my disagreement about the conclusions and the very formulation of the question in the article https: //ra1ahq.blog/khobbi-polza-ili-vrEd

I am glad that the article did not leave you indifferent!

We live a long life

You can argue. Not all. Life expectancy is a probabilistic value. T.K. There is an influence of a stochastic effect.

Decoding under the spoiler.

And during this time we have time to say a lot and think a lot.

We must strive for this.

We say both the words of support and rudeness are also pronounced. And what we think, so all the thoughts are running out there, I wouldn’t be able to live to “live” from “killing” and “how undeservedly I was lucky”

_ What can we say the words of rudeness - are not because of different interests? Or even a conflict?
A hobby is not compatible with his wife - it can be a "motorcycle in the apartment", or music is not in the taste of the listener, or hissing hissing. Please note that women have Bzobid or useful hobbies - growing indoor plants, breeding flowers, knitting, cooking, which cannot cause conflict by definition. Useless hobbies - they provoke irritation in our wives. For example, the antennas on the balcony of an apartment building - they really interfere! I am very sorry that pride closed my eyes and did not take them off before.

, and these thoughts in such quantities that we later use us - “I knew in advance!”, Although we only thought about VESH available options for the development of events (article Knowledge of the_dowing_power об одном из таких когнитивных искажений).

Under any statement can be summed up "cognitive distortion", more than 30 of them. This is such a technique of rhetoric, called distortion.

distorting -deliberately distorted-paved transfer to someone else's thought in their favor. This is a hidden desire to distort the meaning of information, to tear it out of context and give it a different meaning that is beneficial to those who carry out distortion. There are a lot of forms of distortion: exaggeration, diminution, design, falsification, message of half -truth.

I believe that the author of the article is not intentionally, in an attempt to explain the course of life and figure out how to manage it, introduces itself into a similar cognitive distortion.

Formal approach - provides for the extraction of the processes from the studied processes, phenomena only stable, regarding unchanging moments that are considered as if in a “pure” form, outside the connection with the entire process, the phenomenon in general .

In the 1970s, the section of sociology was allocated in the United States-Sociology of leisure принёс "неожиданно мало полезных выводов". Главным образом, досуг зависит от профессии, рода деятельности, т.к. зарплата у разных специальностей отличается в разы.

My article was that leisure should be in harmony with the family (family leisure) and not to worsen health.

Judging by Wikipedia, in the Russian Federation, leisure studies have come down to the analysis of recreational applications of various social groups, depending on the level of income.

It is pleased that thanks to the spiritual heritage of Orthodoxy, Christianity, more and more people are aware of the need to visit temples. At present, the troubled time only religion gives a wide ethical answer and reassurance of the soul of every person. There is no ethics in the formal sociological approach, there is no soul, therefore, the conclusions are weak.

The author brings under the explanation of thousands of random events in his life and the life of another person, as well as those who are mutual for both events under the "simple" explanation in the form of a -consumed to him and a completely rational topic.

In the last article, I gave my rational answer about the organization of leisure in the family. I do not impose my opinion.

But I consider it important to remind you that the theme of life and death, and, moreover, forecasting both processes, is not so simple and understandable, and is often associated with random events that are not part of our control zone or even simple observation (again I suffer to an authoritative source Wikipedia - Комплекс_бога ).

If you are not a believer, you cannot understand what we are in power God. I only wrote to the text thought that I understood at the time of illumination. The secondary must be called secondary, and only that. For example, the whole policy that shines brightly, makes noise, but does not warm it in Mishura.

Also, the article has a division of hobbies into harmful and useful.

Books or audiobooks, good radio stations enrich the inner world, allow you to solve problems:

• "Radio Star" - 94.1 MHz in St. Petersburg.
• "Radio Maria" - before 1053 kHz, the last month is not heard.
• "Radio Vera" - 92.9 MHz in St. Petersburg.
• "Family radio"(Estonia, in Russian)
• "Grad Petrov" 73.1 MHz daily 08-24.
• "Radonezh 684 kHz in St. Petersburg (not every day is heard), 72.92 MHz in Moscow.

The foregoing in no case is a critic of the behavior of the author or his thought, but pursues only the goal of reminding of humility, and forgiveness of himself, first of all, in perfect or not committed deeds.

Thanks for your letter. I want to note that according to Christianity, God must do forgiveness, not man himself. In psychology - it seems called Gestalt but this emasculated theory is not close to anyone who has grown in Orthodox culture. Forgiveness of oneself - only through repentance and work on a change in their behavior.

To understand the context, I note that the author of these lines is not religious by faith

This is only your subjective opinion.

And he has in mind the Gumanitarian instruments cognition of the world through cognition of oneself (including the so -called religious teachings), they are as effective as technical tools, but in their areas of application.

Ethics laws are universal. You need to respect other people and not create problems for them. By the way, introspection is needed more for religion, and etiquette is used in secular life.

Returning to the material world - a hobby. Hobbies have nothing to do with it, he has other functions at all, it is our tool of self -expression, this is a strong and significant part of our life.

Nobody argues with the fact that creativity and self -expression through skill and art - no one argues.

I wanted to convey the thought as in the “game of classics” by Hulio Cortasara: ”If I take from the shelf and read one book, I will not read the other“ . Is there an active vacation in nature equivalent to reading or setting up a PC? Obviously, no.

And, usually (typically, most often), we are alone in it, because One partner, for example, likes to knit/draw, and the second to solder/adjust the computer (the real hobbies of the author of these lines are described). None of us would like to deprive his partner of his hobby, at the level of empathy this is not acceptable, because They can deprive ourselves.

The idyll described to you takes place in most families. We just don’t think about why your partner began to knit - maybe you started reading the news on a smartphone, and not called him to the street for a walk in the park or swim in the pool?

The foregoing pursues the goal of not letting the author of the article stop in the process of knowing oneself and the surrounding world (which I consider identical concepts).

The surrounding material world and internal spiritual are not identical. The world is reflected through reflection, but not identical to consciousness.
Most often, the outside world is hostile, or puts challenges: "The whole world goes to me ..." (Victor Tsoi).
It seems that only religion has given an adequate answer: the world cannot be redone, it was and has been like this for centuries: "i 2000 years ...". Faith, hope and love will be able to save only a particular person and, possibly, his close environment.

To encourage move, with the highest possible speed of knowledge, to absorb knowledge about yourself/surrounding the world. To be the support of the same knowledge seekers as himself, who go next to him the road of life. And feel the unconditional support provided to him. Create and create.

Thanks for the wishes and words in support!

От себя желаю Автору выполнить/пройти/пережить/выстоять/победить/принять выпавшее ему испытание. Как это ДЕЛАЛИ наши предки и будут ДЕЛАТЬ наши последователи.
I regret your loss.
Sincerely, to *****.

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